How to build a friendship
with boyfriend or your girlfriend Three basic concept
about friendship
1.
“Friendship
is the most important relationship that makes us human”.- JOHN ARTHUR
Abraham Maslow calls friendship the social need of
man. It our need for affection, acceptance and affiliation with others.
Aristotle further describes human beings as “Social Animals”. One writer says,
“One’s friends are that of the human race with which one can be human”. (George Santayana). In other words,
if you fail to be a friend, you fail to be a human being. This is why those who
lose their virtues of friendship become tyrants and headaches to society.
2.
“Friendship
helps us to live longer”.- JOHN ARTHUR
According to a news in 2019, by Harvard School of
Public Health, they noted “An active social life may help you live longer”. The
CNN research also mentioned a recent review of 148 studies that found that
people who are isolated faces a 50% greater risk of premature death than those
who have stronger social connections.
3.
“Every
relationship without friendship is dead”.- JOHN ARTHUR
Every relationship we have in our lives that has no
real friendship in it becomes meaningless. Friendship is what holds all
relationships together. In fact, the life of relationship is friendship. If you
want your relationship with people; whether it’s your wife, husband, children,
parents, friends or even God, to abide forever; the key thing you need to do is
to build friendship into those relationships. Psychologists point out that in
the happiest and strongest marriages, the spouses play not only the roles of
lovers and partners, but also as best friends.
Ø How to build friendship
with your boyfriend or girlfriend
1.
“Partners
who are friends love each other more as friends than as lovers”.- JOHN ARTHUR.
In your relationship with your partner in dating or
courtship, yearn to be their friend. It is the greatest person you could be to
them. We think of being a dating or marriage partner more than being a friend
to them. “The best person in anyone is a friend”.- JOHN ARTHUR. Any personality
who is not a friend becomes irrelevant. Whatever you become in life without
being a friend diminishes your true value. One of the real indices of a
person’s worth is his ability to live as a true friend. The truth is, the only
person God created to live with you forever on earth and even eternity is a
friend. Dr. Mike Murdock says, “The greatest gift God can give you other than
Himself is a friend”. Loving people by choice is more powerful and greater than
by command or obligation.
2.
“Partners
who are friends learn how to live with each other even when it hurts”.- JOHN
ARTHUR
It takes many years of sharing our lives together in
order to create a lasting and successful relationship. If you are the type who
easily gives up on people, it will be very difficult to have a lasting
relationship with others. William Shakespeare said, “A friend is one that knows
you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become,
and still, gently allows you to grow”. Friends who are partner enable each
other to become better in living with them, than being away from them.
Things to learn about
your partner
1.
Learn
your partner’s temperament.
The goal is to be a friend to your partner, not their
teacher or judge but their friend, someone who is interested in their welfare
and willing to make them better people. If you don’t learn more about your
partner’s temperament, you’ll fight and misunderstand each other many times and
wouldn’t know how to make up again. Saint Francis de Sales says, “A quarrel
between friends, when made up, adds a new tie to friendship”. Whether they’re
sanguine, melancholy, phlegmatic or choleric; study them so you could better
understand them and be their trusted friend.
2.
Learn
their hobbies
3.
Learn
your partner’s interests and desires.
Whatever they are interested in and have a desire to
achieve, make time to learn more about it and offer them your suggestions and findings of how they could
improve their skills and become better in that area.
LESSON BY
JOHN ARTHUR
AUTHOR/WRITER
PRESIDENT SCHOOL OF FRIENDSHIP
Great thoughts.
ReplyDeleteFriendship indeed holds a great key to relationships.
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